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Purposeful Parenting: Steps to Becoming a Purposeful Parent

Theme of the Month: More than Conquerors

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Ministering in today's Sunday service is Ms. Bola Odetokun.

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Purposeful Parenting


Definitions

Parenting is the process of promoting and supporting the physical, emotional, social, and intellectual development of a child from infancy to adulthood.


·Raising, nurturing, and guiding children

·Providing protection and care to ensure healthy development

·Advocating for them as necessary (based on age and maturity)

·All-in-one Nurse, Teacher, Cook, Cleaner, Driver, Counselor, etc.

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Intentional is approaching something important to you with consciousness, seriousness, commitment, and focus, while having some end goals in mind.


·Deliberate

·Calculated

·Planned

·Purposeful

·Not ‘quick-fixing’

·Not ‘winging it’


Where do I start? Someone help me please!


Intentional Parenting


Children don’t arrive with a ‘how to raise me manual’, what do we do?


We rely on our parents’ ideas/guidelines

We rely on older friends who already are raising their children

Just coast along


■‘Reactive’ versus ‘proactive’. Impulse versus reflection.

(Many of us were raised this way and thankfully we ‘turned out well’ (supposedly) but with lots of trauma imposed on us.)


Questions/Reflection:

How many of us look back and wish our parents had done something better/different in one area of our lives or another?

Ask yourself ‘am I just managing from one day to the other or do I really know what I am doing with my child?

Do you have a plan or are you always just doing ‘quick-fixes’ or firefighting? You need a PLAN!


■Becoming a Purposeful Parent can be challenging, but it is possible. It means having a plan and being disciplined enough to follow through with the plan. You may tweak things along the way as necessary, but you commit to the plan.


Steps to Becoming a Purposeful Parent


1. Understand Your Role

You and your child.

Your voice matters.

Influence without being overbearing


Ps 127 : 4 ‘As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth.’ You can’t afford to shoot an arrow anyhow; you must be focused and precise.


2. Define Your Priorities

Family importance and Family values

  • God/Faith

  • Marriage (if married)

  • Children/Family life

  • Career/Business

  • Church Activities/Community/Friends/Neighbors


3. Define the Big Picture

In your mind’s eye, where do you see your child by age 12, 16, 18, 21? What do you need to do to help them get there?


Examples of what can be part of the Big Picture

üConfidence

üCharacter

üConviction

üCompassion

üCompetent – life skills (example?)

üAcademics/Vocational skills/Career


4. Create a Safe and Peaceful Home Atmosphere and be Present

A place of love and acceptance

Expectations (including chores).

‘Presence’ versus ‘presents’.


5. Communication

Open channels

Active listening.

Understanding

Age-appropriate participative decision making.


6. Love/Affirmation/ Encouragement

Constant Expression

Kindness and positivity

Avoid creating ‘approval addicts’

Avoid favoritism


7. Boundaries/Consequences/Discipline

Age-appropriate expectations (homework, game/screen time, chores, curfews, etc)

Clarity on consequences.

Discipline through guidance, not punishment.


  • You need a plan

  • Believe in your power to influence

  • You are the single greatest influence in the life of your child

  • You are under surveillance 24/7

  • Be intentional in the way you live out your faith

  • Good behavior starts with you!

  • Be intentional about living in integrity

  • Admit it when you’re wrong and then apologize!

  • It’s never too late to start being purposeful


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RCCG Peace Assembly

Location: The Redeemed Christian Church of God Peace Assembly, 2158 McDaniel's Bridge Court, Lilburn, GA 30047


About RCCG Peace Assembly

The Redeemed Christian Church of God Peace Assembly is a multicultural international and non-denominational church that is located in Lilburn, Georgia. Peace Assembly under the divine mandate of God was established to further enrich the lives of people in Georgia.


In 2004, Pastor Francis Tekobo was installed as the new pastor of Peace Assembly. With the divine grace of God, Peace Assembly has increased in number and size. From celebrating new births, to the constant addition of new souls, Peace Assembly is destined for greatness.

People from many nations can call Peace Assembly their home.


Peace Assembly has over thirty ministries under her belt. Fondly called RCCG P.A, Peace Assembly is a church that aims to integrate the Big Three in the lives of believers: Communication, Orderliness and Unity. Communication with Christ, Orderliness in the lives of believers and Unity in the church of God.


We believe that by the Grace of God, all three can be simultaneously achieved.


God Bless you!

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